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It Boils and Boils… Then What?

 

It Boils and Boils... Then What?

Adebola Adenle
11/27/2020

Oftentimes in our society with its current social “norms,” individuals may emotionally suppress themselves for one reason or another. Often pertaining to their current environment and those around them. Despite the efforts of any individual, it is an inevitable fact that emotional suppression will eventually result in an involuntary release of such emotions. Of course the manner in which they release varies from person to person, but overall emotional suppression is detrimental to one’s own mental health. Yet once it reaches what you could call a “boiling point,” The metaphorical “explosion” of emotion which occurs is much more of a positive effect than negative.

        Though the term “boiling point” most often relates to an emotion of anger, throughout this article when I refer to a “boiling point,” I mean it in the context of not only an uprising in emotions of anger, but also ones of sadness, grief, guilt, etc.

        Now, back to my previous point of “boiling points” being a good thing, at least in reaction to long bouts of emotional suppression. First of all, emotions are not meant to be hidden nor quieted within a person. Humans are an emotional species. Most of how we make sense of the world around us and the people we meet is through emotion. Even how we decide to live our lives and the actions we take each day are heavily influenced by our own feelings and emotions, both negative and positive. We are all emotional, regardless of  whether we (or society) refuse to believe that or not (With a few case exceptions).

        When you, yourself, or others around you suppress any emotions which come naturally in  human life, they merely begin to grow until they are released, whether it be stress, anger, or sadness. Normally there are physical and mental symptoms your body and mind may demonstrate in response to these bottled up emotions as they develop. These symptoms vary from one person to another, but overall, they will likely hinder your ability to  progress throughout life. For example, some physical symptoms are muscle tension, pain, sleeping irregularity, insomnia, digestive problems, changes in appetite, etc.

        Even more changes can occur in response to emotional suppression. There may be changes in one’s behavioral and emotional state. For example, there may be changes in how you empathize with others around you, as well as how you treat yourself and talk about things that are important to you. Emotionally, you may feel uneasy around any talk surrounding emotions, whether it be about your own or someone else’s. You may often feel “numb” and forget things, or even use mediums such as other people or social media, television and other entertainment to unconsciously avoid the core issue. Even certain mental and physical health conditions such as anxiety, stress-related illnesses, stress, and depression can develop.

Now, that you know the effects emotional suppression has on an individual’s life, it’s time to speak about when your emotions are suppressed over long amounts of time and not regulated healthily. They may progress to a certain point that when it all releases, it’s much more positive for one’s mental health, though it may result in consequences in your personal or work life. Rather than continually letting it develop to further extremes,or in other words, letting it all continue to boil.

When a person reaches a “boiling point” they may react in different ways according to the person and emotions they are feeling. Though most often it will be in an extreme manner equivalent to what one would be holding in.

The reason why such an extreme emotional outburst could be even remotely positive in comparison to further suppressing emotions is because that emotional outburst can be compared to the long-awaited break in a cracking dam. As the flood waters rush, the worst of the damage has occurred and now healing can begin, as the issue has abruptly been made clear.

When one suppresses their own emotions, they also suppress the problems and issues in their own life which need to be resolved before any further progress can be made. If no one knows or has really acknowledged a problem, no one can fix it.

Though emotional outbursts may lead one down a slippery slope if nothing changes in them afterward. If they continue emotionally suppressing themselves even after such an apparent signal of emotional distress, the cycle will merely repeat, and they will meet a boiling point yet again.

In response to reaching a boiling point it might be good to:

•       Begin seeing a therapist or regularly talk with family and friends (That you feel safe with, of course) about what you struggle with and vent to them issues in your life.

•        Survey yourself from time to time and have a mental check-in with yourself– deconstruct your current emotional state and know when you need a break to mentally recuperate and release.

A few healthy methods in which you may able to regulate and release your emotions it to:

•        Journal your thoughts and feelings.

•      Speak with and spend time with close family and friends

•      Give yourself time to participate in personal joys and activities.

In conclusion, emotional suppression can often result in the breaching of a boiling emotional point, which isn’t always a bad thing. If you work to feel and release these emotions naturally as you go throughout life, in all its daily struggles and upsets from that point onward.

Sources:

Raypole, Crystal. “Repressed Emotions: Finding and Releasing Them.” Healthline, Healthline Media, 31 Mar. 2020,https://www.healthline.com/health/repressedemotions#takeaway

Cullen, Margaret. “The Real Danger of Suppressing Your Emotions.” Mindful, 28 Jan. 2020, https://www.mindful.org/the-real-danger-of-suppressing-your-emotions/

Ackerman, Courtney E. “21 Emotion Regulation Worksheets & Strategies.” PositivePsychology.com, 16 Apr. 2020, https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-regulation-worksheets-strategies-dbt-skills/

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